This is primarily a user to user support forum. We don't have the power to recommend those kinds of changes. That would be something best taken up with your bishop to see if he will pass it along to his presiding authority.
The only option I'm aware of is your ward clerk can contact GSD and have your non-member husband removed from the directory listing. However, that will make you look like a single mother.
But there's something to be said for consistent name order. Some name are not gender-obvious, especially foreign ones. Having a consistent order helps to know which one is the wife.
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