The answer is likely unsatisfactory, but my understanding is that the Church does not provide members access to any kind of communication method like you describe. If you have met with your Bishop and Stake President and spoken openly about your frustrations, and your concerns remain, you could then ask your Stake President if he could forward your issue to his presiding leader. If he chooses not to do that, then you likely do not have much recourse, as the Church's structure is very linear in this regard.
Be aware that in many cases, these local leaders do indeed consult with their presiding leaders about complicated issues, but sometimes they do not share that fact with the members.
Others on the Forum may have additional insight, I'm only speaking from my experience. And I sympathize with your situation, it's challenging when there are sensitive issues of profound personal importance that our leaders are not resolving to our satisfaction. I expect that even if you might not see it that way, your leaders are as sincere as you are in their desire and efforts to help.